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We lost a child last year at the age of 23. Our Brother-in-law lost an 18 year old a little over a week ago. Many people knowing our situation said, “I don’t know how you guys do it” referring to getting on with life and not depressing everyone around us as we grieve.
There are days when we wonder ourselves.
We “do it” because we have three other children that still need us. I have a wife that I still need and I hope she needs me. Together, we carry on and just do our best to make our son’s life count for something.
When our brother-in-law called, there wasn’t a hesitation. We were on our way for a four hour drive because it was the right thing to do. Out of everyone, we were a couple of the best people to provide simple moral support. They knew they could yell, cry, whatever they needed to do around us and there would be no judgement, but there would be understanding and a shoulder when they needed it.
I wouldn’t wish this on anyone and I certainly miss my son but I’m very glad we could be there for support when it was needed.
Life teaches us some very nasty lessons and you never know when you will draw on the negative experiences but rest assured, there is great value to every life experience. Especially the ones that hurt. They are the ones with the most value because God doesn’t bless everyone the same and, because of our differences, we all have something to offer to our brothers and sisters.
Embrace every day, even the painful ones. God never brings you to something if he isn’t going to help you through it. Like our earthly fathers, the Heavenly Father is always there. All you have to do is ask!
Have a great day!
Barry
P.S. What am I thankful for today?
I’m thankful we made it home safely. I’m thankful our in-laws know they can call ANY time. I’m thankful for my grand daughter who just celebrated her 6th birthday!
What are you thankful for today?
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