People come and go throughout our lives for different seasons and different reasons. The people who are your friends when you are a kid are often different than your teenage friends who are in turn different than your college/university friends and those are different yet than your friends as you grow up. Have you ever noticed that it’s not usually your friends who have changed but it’s YOU that has changed?
Things happen in your life that either causes you to hurt a friend or them to hurt you. You end up going different ways but that doesn’t necessarily mean you aren’t friends any more but that you no longer meet each other’s needs. Sometimes you reconnect later in life because something has created a need for whatever that person has to offer. Some times it doesn’t.
In Millionaire Mind, T. Harv Eker talks about this to some degree. You need to understand that when you make changes, often for the better, you no longer meet the needs of the friends you have at that time and they don’t meet yours. That doesn’t make you a bad person! You will still likely be there if they ever really need you.
The problem is that in trying so desperately to hold onto our current friends, we hold ourselves back and miss out on some wonderful opportunities. If you want to grow and give your best to the world around you, stretch a little and take some risk. Risk isn’t just about money. Take a risk and meet some friends that have interests in common with your current interests and time in your life. Establish friends with the mindset that you want to have.
Those who are truly friends will remain your friends even if you don’t spend as much time with them and you are still theirs if you chose to be.
Live a little! You can never have too many friends!
Barry
P.S.
What am I thankful for today? I’m thankful that I was born into this wonderful country, Canada. I’m thankful that I realized my dream of meeting a wonderful woman and raising a family. I’m thankful that God gave me the ability to reason and forgives when I don’t always get it right! What are you thankful for today?