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It’s interesting how we hold onto ideals.

When my wife separated from her first husband, (I’m not the first but I’m the best!), she was devastated and having a hard time managing her emotions.  She was very frustrated and angry and really couldn’t get her head around it until a counsellor asked the question:  “Are you upset about the marriage not working or are you more upset that you can’t have your ideal white picket fence?”

It was the fence!

To this day, if I could find a house with a white picket fence and a wraparound porch, we would be moving.

How many times do we end up having bad feelings because we can’t let go of an ideal.  By releasing the ideal and replacing it with a beautiful new picture, we can find the joy again.

I’ll compare this to the pictures in my living room.  We lost our son a year ago and still have the last family picture on the wall.  There will always be a very special place for that picture but eventually, we need to have a new family picture done to reflect today’s reality.  Losing him was sad and hurts but he would be furious if we don’t get on with life.

Just because you can’t have your white picket fence doesn’t mean you can’t create a beautiful life.

All I can say is “What a ride!”


P.S.  What am I thankful for today?  I’m thankful for a wonderful sunny day.  I’m thankful for the few minutes with my little sister today.  I’m thankful my son left us a beautiful grand daughter.

What are you thankful for today?

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